When it comes to leaving an abusive situation, you need to realize that doing so may spark rage in your spouse. If you are threatened, you may need to get a restraining order, but be aware that this may push someone over the edge.
The most dangerous time for an abused spouse is the first 24 hours after a restraining order has been issued. Some people feel that they won't be controlled by a piece of paper. If you do get a restraining order, ask the police if they can drive by your house, or contact your local shelter to see if you can stay at a safe house until things are settled.
When you make plans for moving forward with your divorce, you will want to hire a lawyer that has experience in divorces involving domestic abuse. You need someone that understands the dynamics of such a relationship and can help prevent you from being intimidated into an unfair divorce agreement.
If your case goes to trial, you need someone who can enlighten the judge about your circumstances, and will be willing to protect you and your children.
For more information, contact the Family Law Offices of Renee M. Marcelle at (415) 456-4444, or online at http://www.familylawmarin.com/