Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Warning Signs of an Abuser
Break the Pattern of Abusive Men
Women who get involved with abusive men are typically those who had abusive childhood home environments. This kind of upbringing tends to normalize abusive behavior in all relationships. What this means is that women from this kind of a background are not as keen to the subtleties of abuse the way “healthy” women are.
On a positive note, there is a silver lining here—all behavior can be relearned, including the ability to recognize early signs of abuse as unacceptable behaviors in a relationship. Once this is learned, a woman will be able to break free from unhealthy relationships with men who are no good for her.
by: Womens Divorce
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Tuesday, July 13, 2010
IN DIVORCE WHO GETS THE ORGANS?
Dawnell recovered, but their marriage didn’t. A few years later she filed for divorce. Now her husband says he wants his kidney back. If he can’t have it, he wants a payment of $1.5 million, the estimated worth of the organ.
Medical ethicists say Batista is unlikely to get either, as it’s illegal to exchange money for an organ and the law is clear that no gift, once given, can be forcibly taken back.
This is a sad story on all fronts. But would it be possible 10 or 20 years from now? As Dubner and Levitt wrote in The Times Magazine, our repugnance toward assigning monetary value to human life has grown, receded, and changed over time.
How long until, and under what conditions, will a market in donated organs become acceptable? Written by: Freakonomics
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IS DIVORCE CONTAGIOUS??
Written by: Jon Forest
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CHILD CUSTODY
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Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Divorce Settlement Considerations
Divorce and Your Finances - The 7 Most Costly Mistakes
Each year there are nearly 1 million divorces in the United States, or about 50% of all marriages (2002 United States Census Bureau statistics). The real tragedy, however, is the financial devastation that occurs to many individuals after their divorce.
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Top 5 Things To Consider When Hiring A Divorce Attorney
1. Attorney's Experience
Any divorce attorney you consider should have substantially experienced in handling divorce cases in your area. An experienced divorce attorney will know what to expect of the judges in your jurisdiction and should be able to use this knowledge to your advantage. Additionally, the attorney should practice primarily in the field of divorce law.
2. Client Testimonials
The best way to decide which divorce attorney to use is to find out what former clients have to say about the attorney. If you do not know someone who has been a client of that particular divorce attorney, you should consider asking the attorney for a list of clients that you can contact who can describe their experience with the attorney.
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Adult Children of Divorce
It is commonly accepted that divorce has a developmental impact, and often a serious one, on teenagers and young children. The effect of their parents’ divorce on children who are already considered adults, though, is often dismissed. Adult children of divorce, or ACODs (AKODs, another common acronym, stands for "adult kids of divorce"), are often expected to be an "adult" and support their parents through the pain of separation and divorce. They may also be drawn into their parents’ arguments in ways that younger children might not be...
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Tips for Raising Your Child Alone
You’re Not the Only One
It is easy to feel alone when you are a raising a child by yourself, but according to Parenting Without Partners, more than 12 million families in the United States are single parent families because of a death, divorce or seperation. Families with only one parent are becoming the “norm,” and resources are becoming more available for single parents.
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Tuesday, February 23, 2010
More Equitable Divorce Solutions: Alternative to Divorce Disputes
There is an Alternative to Divorce Disputes.
Sometimes your divorce really is more a matter of growing apart, than anything else. While there may be underlying issues that one or the other partner has (or both); mature, intelligent people are usually able to overcome these in the better interests of their children. The old method was to fight about who gets what, and who has control and custody of the children. Now, several couples have found ways to make things for better for both them and the kids. This is a collaborative divorce model that allows families to stay together, while still allowing the parents to have their own lives, separate from each other. Can it get better than that?
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The Emotional Stages of Divorce
Divorce could also be coined “Relationship Death” as the emotions experienced are fairly similar to grieving over the loss of someone dear. The path to letting go of your marriage and finding acceptance is a difficult one, but being aware of what you are going through will help you navigate this challenging life transition. The negative feelings may not go away but harboring hope and staying positive is truly the path to recovery...
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Maintaining Your Credit Status After Divorce
Many people assume that divorce is primarily about division of property. However, when two individuals dissolve a marriage, there are usually shared debts and often mortgages and other loans in common which need to be carefully handled...
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Should I keep Records of Support Payments?
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Monday, February 22, 2010
10 Misconceptions About Divorce Mediation
The following are some of the common misconceptions about divorce mediation:
1. My spouse and I cannot be civil to one another; we argue all of the time. I thought that for mediation to work the couple must be on amicable terms.
This is not true. Mediators are trained to deal with volatile situations. Take a look at labor negotiations or negotiations in the middle east. Alternative: Divorce Mediation uses a clinical psychologist and family law attorney team when mediating a divorce. Their combined skills in dealing with difficult situations can reduce the acrimony and even help couples to learn the skills necessary for successful negotiations.
2. I won't need an attorney if I decide to mediate.
This is false. In fact, we urge couples seeking a divorce to have an attorney as a consultant to give legal advice and to go over documents prepared by the mediators. While the Deborah Vaupen of Alternatives is an attorney, she will assure each party that their best interests are being safeguarded.
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A best-selling Journey Back From Divorce
"Don't worry, nobody ever reads my books," she would tell them, shrugging off their concerns. "Except maybe my parents and a few friends."
That was before Eat, Pray, Love.
Gilbert's hugely successful memoir, chronicling her year abroad following a painful divorce, is published in 30 languages. More than 1 million copies of the paperback are in print...
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Is Work Or A Divorce Keeping You From Your Child?
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Fight or Flight? How Men React To Divorce
Fight or Flight - Which is Better?
As science has proven, our bodies and minds have two responses to stressors. It's called the "flight or fight" response. Either we react by fighting back against whatever is causing us stress or we run away. Divorce, and all that is wrapped up into it, is definitely stressful. It's stressful on us and it's stressful on our family and especially our children...
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Innocent Victims of a Litigious Divorce: The Children
There is an alternative to the bitter, acrimonious litigated divorce. Divorce Mediation mitigates the lengthy, costly and often damaging effects of a litigated divorce because it is more efficient and is sensitive to the emotional toll placed on spouses and their children. Couples are encouraged to communicate directly to one another thereby by-passing the indirect and expensive client-to-attorney-to-attorney-client communication chain. Our approach to mediation combines the psychotherapeutic skills of a psychologist and the legal skills of an attorney so that all aspects of dissolving a marriage can be addressed: legal, emotional and financial. The co-mediators are specially suited and trained to safeguard the best interests of the children, and acknowledge a couple's pain associated with a divorce without allowing those emotions to control the settlement procedure.
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Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Dividing Pension and Retirement Benefits
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Evaluating Spousal Support
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Negotiation tip: Patience and Persistence Are Your Hidden Strengths
During the negotiation process you test your counterpartÃs expectations and goals as well as your own. Agreement is reached only after each party is ready to move from the wishful into the realm of the possible. Change takes place over time in small, constant, incremental movements. You cannot rush the process. The right number at the wrong time is the wrong number...
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Kids Learn to Bear Divorce
Wendy Lokken, co-author of ""You and Me Make Three"", knows the heartache families experience when they go separate ways.
""I am a child of divorce and I am divorced with children,"" Lokken said.
That's why Lokken, a Naples resident, joined authors Gwendy Mangiamele, Edna Cucksey Stephens and illustrator Heather Drescher to write a book for kids about divorce. They'll sign copies of the book this month at three Naples book stores.
Offered along with the book is a teddy bear named B.B. the Bear who offers comfort and a safe place to talk about feelings.
""I was raised in North Dakota and divorce was just something we never talked about,"" Lokken said...
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Thursday, February 11, 2010
Is Infidelity A Reason For Divorce?
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin, says her study reveals that only 35 percent of marriages can thrive after infidelity and that more than half of all marriages have had one person commit adultery...
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California Divorce Attorney Talks About "Contested" and "Uncontested" Divorce
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10 Questions to Ask Your Divorce Attorney
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Custody and Visitation
There are two types of custody, "legal" and "physical" custody...
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Planning for Divorce
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California Divorce Attorney on the First Steps of Divorce
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Monday, February 8, 2010
Alternative to Court: Collaborative Law
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Best California Divorce Attorney On What Discovery Is
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Unreported Income and Hidden Assets
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Thursday, February 4, 2010
Disobeying Court Orders Leads to More Trouble...
Neither of those excuses works...
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Best California Divorce Attorney on If You're Thinking About Divorce
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Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Replacing Custody Battles With Parenting Plans
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Divorce Tips: Alimony
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Will the Judge Consider a Child's Preference in a Custody Matter?
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What Factors Are Considered in Child Custody Cases?
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Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Children and Parentage in Domestic Partnerships
Inclusion on the Child’s Birth Certificate:
Lesbians using artificial insemination can both be included on the child’s original birth certificate.
Gay men using a surrogate must obtain a court judgment of parentage to both be included on the birth certificate.
To obtain a court judgment, complete an adoption or obtain a judgment of parentage.
Adoptions:
Second Parent Adoption:
Available to all couples
The legal parent is not required to give up any of his rights to the child for his partner to adopt.
More costly.
More invasive home studies.
More time to complete.
Step-parent/Domestic Partner Adoption:
Available to registered domestic partners only
The legal parent is not required to give up any of his rights to the child for his partner to adopt
Easier because child is presumed to be residing in the home and the person chosen to adopt has been chosen by a fit, custodial parent.
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Termination of Domestic Partnerships
The Notice of Termination of Domestic Partnership is signed by both domestic partners.
No children have been born or adopted into the relationship, either before or after registration, and neither of the partners, to their knowledge, is pregnant.
The domestic partnership has been in existence no more than 5 years.
Neither party has an interest in real property wherever situated, with the exception of the lease of a residence occupied by either party which satisfies the following requirements:
The lease does not include an option to purchase
The lease terminates within 1 year from the date of filing the Notice of Termination.
There are no unpaid obligations (excluding automobile obligations) in excess of $4,000 incurred by either or both parties after registration of the domestic partnership.
The total fair market value of community property assets (excluding encumbrances and automobiles) is less than $32,000 and neither party has separate assets (excluding encumbrances and automobiles) in excess of $32,000.
The parties have executed an agreement setting forth the division of assets and the assumption of liabilities of the community property, and have executed any documents, title certificates, bills of sale, or other evidence of transfer necessary to effectuate the agreement.
The parties waive any right to support by the other.
The parties have read and understand a brochure prepared by the Secretary of State describing the requirements, nature, and effect of terminating a domestic partnership.
Both parties desire the domestic partnership to be terminated.
Termination shall be effective 6 months after the date of filing the Notice of Termination of Domestic Partnership with the Secretary of State.
Termination if No Longer Living in California:
Domestic partners must agree to allow CA courts to have jurisdiction over dissolution and other proceedings regarding domestic partner status.
CA’s Recognition of Non-CA Same Sex Unions:
A legal union of two persons of the same sex, other than a marriage, that was validly formed in another jurisdiction, and that is substantially equivalent ot a domestic partnership shall be recognized as a valid domestic partnership in this state regardless of whether it bears the name domestic partnership.
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Child Custody
If the court must get involved, often the parties are sent to family court mediation to work out a parenting plan. Mediation is when both parties attend a conference with a neutral party in order to discuss proposals for custody and support arrangements The court typically looks at the status quo to determine what is in the best interest of the child. Both parties are encouraged to create a set schedule of shared-parenting. An example is having weekends with the child, rotating holidays, or weekly visits. After mediation, an attorney can formalize any agreements and litigate any unresolved issues.
Sometimes psychological evaluations of the children or parties are recommended. The primary goal is to find out if either parent suffers from a dysfunction which impairs their ability to care for the children. During the evaluation, the parties are subjected to a series of psychological tests and observations. A psychologist may also view the history of the family parenting plan, while giving most weight to the most recent plan. Generally a psychologist supports the most recent parenting plan for the child, except if there is a valid reason for dramatic change.
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Discovery Phase of the Family Law Process
(1) To secure information;
(2) To solidify testimony so it may not be changed at future hearings or trial
(3) To obtain necessary documentation to adequately present your case
(4) For the purpose of evaluating witnesses.
After the deposition, many times subpoenas are sent out to verify the information obtained at the deposition. By the time the first three steps are completed, the emotional involvement of the parties has generally subsided to the level where many cases are in fact resolved by settlement. We will then formulate a settlement offer for the purpose of resolving the case in total. Please be assured that no offer of settlement will be made without your knowledge. If the settlement offer is accepted or amendments thereto are agreeable to all parties, a settlement agreement will be prepared. This document essentially indicates which assets will be allocated to the wife and which assets will be allocated to the husband. It will also address the issues of custody and visitation, together with support and all other matters. Once the settlement agreement is signed by both parties and their attorneys, it is filed with the Superior Court in the form of a binding court order.
If there are custody and/or visitation disputes, they are now referred by the Court for mandatory counseling at "Conciliation Court" (within the Courthouse) prior to the Court hearing. If an Order to Show Cause is filed on your behalf, a copy will be given to you. Please note the date set for Conciliation and the hearing and immediately call to confirm your presence at both scheduled dates. The Conciliation date is mandatory, and you must appear for that meeting or the Court can order sanctions, fines or other orders against you.
If the matter cannot be resolved by stipulation, it will proceed to the fourth step, which is trial. A Mandatory Settlement Conference date approximately six (6) to eight (8) months from the date on which the trial is originally requested will be assigned. At this Mandatory Settlement Conference, we will be required to meet with a judge or one or two attorneys who limit their practice to Family Law. These attorneys or the judge will review our Settlement Conference Brief which we will have prepared in advance. They will review the positions of both sides with respect to all issues. They will then give a recommendation for the purpose of helping the parties resolve the case. If the matter is not resolved, the case will proceed to trial, usually within forty-five (45) days of the Mandatory Settlement Conference.
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Monday, February 1, 2010
Do I Need A Divorce Attorney?
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Domestic Partnership Law
Domestic partners are two adults sharing their lives in an intimate andcommitted relationship of mutual caring.
Requirements to Become Domestic Partners:
Both persons must file a Declaration of Domestic Partnership with the Secretary of State.
Both persons must have a common residence.
Neither can be married to another or be a domestic partner with another, which marriage or partnership has not been terminated, dissolved, or adjudged a nullity.
The two persons are not related by blood in a way that would prevent them from being married to each other in this state.
Both persons are at least 18 years of age.
Either:
Both persons are members of the same sex, or one or both of the persons meet the eligibility criteria under Title II of the SSA as defined in 42 USC Section 402(a) for old-age insurance benefits or Title XVI of the SSA as defined in 42 USC Section 1381 for aged individuals.
Both persons are capable of consenting to the domestic partnership.
Registered domestic partners shall have the same rights, protections, and benefits, and shall be subject to the same responsibilities, obligations, and duties under law, whether they derive from statutes, administrative regulations, court rules, government policies, common law, or any other provisions or sources of law, as are granted to and imposed upon spouses.
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California Divorce/Dissolution of Marriage
Dissolution takes place after six months and a day have passed since the Summons and Petition have effectively been served in the Respondent. Generally one spouse requests temporary court orders by filing for an Order to Show Cause hearing.
Discovery is then engaged in. During discovery, the parties exchange documents and information that is relevant to the case. A Preliminary Declaration of Disclosure is one aspect of discovery. This document is a court form which each party is required to list the community and separate property of the spouses. Following discovery, the parties and their attorneys will often attempt to settle the case without incurring the expenses of trial. If the case is agreed upon at this stage, a Marital Settlement Agreement will be prepared by an attorney. This agreement will have all the essential terms that the parties agreed on. The agreement is a contract which is signed by the parties and their counsel. In the event that a settlement is not reached then the parties attend a settlement conference, if the parties still can not reach a settlement, then a trial will likely take place.
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Overview of the Family Law Process
Following receipt of the Petition, the Respondent has 30 days (unless granted additional time by the Petitioner's attorney) in which to file his or her responding statement. After the 30-day period the case can be set for a Court hearing.
The first step in preparing for a dissolution of marriage includes preparation of the following pleadings:
(1) Summons
(2) Petition
(3) Order to Show Cause (for the purpose of requesting relief at the first hearing); (4) Temporary Restraining Orders
(5) Declarations
(6) Income and Expense Declaration
(7) Response, if appropriate
(8) Responsive Declaration to Order to Show Cause, if appropriate.
At our first meeting, we generally prepare all necessary paperwork in order to either initiate the divorce or to respond to the Petition filed by the spouse. These pleadings are then generally served upon the other party.
Once the pleadings are served upon the other party, the Judgment of Dissolution of Marriage can be granted dissolving the parties' marital status, at the earliest six (6) months from the date of service. The purpose of the six-month waiting period is to encourage reconciliation between the spouses, and if in fact a reconciliation occurs during this period, kindly contact our offices and we will see that all paperwork is stopped.
After the pleadings have been drafted and served, the next step is the Order to Show Cause, the initial hearing. Generally, the following issues are addressed at the initial hearing: (1) Spousal support;(2) Child support;(3) Child custody and visitation;(4) Restraining orders;(5) Use of the residence and motor vehicles;(6) Joinder of any pension plans;(7) Request for attorney's fees and costs; and,(8) Any other miscellaneous relief which may be necessary in order to maintain stability for the benefit of the children and the parties. The first hearing will normally occur within twenty-five (25) days of the date the pleadings are initially filed with the court, absent any continuances.
At this hearing, the attorneys will argue the case and the courts generally will not take testimony at this time.
For more information, contact the Family Law Offices of Renee M. Marcelle at (415) 456-4444, or online at http://www.familylawmarin.com/
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