WHEN DIVORCE IS A FAMILY AFFAIR

Today, obtaining a divorce couldn’t get much easier. America’s no-fault divorce laws allow spouses to unilaterally walk out on their families for any reason. And many do just that. Spouses who want to keep their families intact, however, have no alternatives. Thus, the outcome of every divorce filing is preordained: the family will split up.
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AFTER PARENT'S DIVORCE DO KIDS NEED THERAPY?

Question: What are some of the signs that a child needs therapy?
I separated from my husband two years ago and am now divorced. The children understand the logistics of it and why it was so necessary, but my parents keep telling me that they need therapy. I don’t think the kids need it, but I’m juggling so many balls at this moment that I may not be able to see the truth for myself.

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HEALTHY DIVORCE - HOW TO MAKE YOUR SPLIT AS SMOOTH AS POSSIBLE

The end of a marriage typically unleashes a flood of emotions including anger, grief, anxiety and fear. Sometimes these feelings can rise up when you least expect them, catching you off guard. Such a response is normal, and over time the intensity of these feelings will subside. In the meantime, be kind to yourself. Researchers have found that people who are kind and compassionate to themselves have an easier time managing the day-to-day difficulties of divorce.

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TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR GETTING ANGER UNDER CONTROL

Going through a divorce is one of the most difficult situations you will encounter in your lifetime.  At time it can be tough to control our emotions.

Do you have a short fuse or find yourself getting into frequent arguments and fights? Anger is a normal, healthy emotion, but when chronic, explosive anger spirals out of control, it can have serious consequences for your relationships, your health, and your state of mind. With insight about the real reasons for your anger and these anger management tools, you can learn to keep your temper from hijacking your life.

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CO-PARENTING WITH YOUR EX AND MAKING JOINT CUSTODY WORK

Co-parenting amicably with your ex can give your children stability and close relationships with both parents–but it's rarely easy. Putting aside relationship issues to co-parent agreeably can be fraught with stress. Despite the many challenges, though, it is possible to develop a cordial working relationship with your ex for the sake of your children. With these tips, you can remain calm, stay consistent, and avoid or resolve conflict with your ex and make joint custody work.

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DIVORCE THINK FINANCIALLY, NOT EMOTIONALLY

Divorce is an extremely turbulent, stressful and emotional process ... and one during which parties must make many important financial decisions that will, for better or worse, impact the rest of their lives, including the division of assets and debt, the marital home, tax liabilities, alimony, etc.
 
Thinking financially is not always easy. But, it is possible, especially if you have some help.

To learn more you can purchase this book written by Jeffrey A. Landers, CDFA, at: http://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Financially-Emotionally-Securing-Financial/dp/1937458490/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1348491210&sr=8-1&keywords+divorce+think+financially
 
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NINE HAPPY SURPRISES OF SECOND MARRIAGES

Divorce can be devastating, but it doesn’t mean you’ve blown your chance at bliss. A failed first union can prime you to spend the rest of your life feeling loved, secure and respected. Read on to learn why second marriages are often a much-improved experience over the first time.

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WHAT I WISH I KNEW BEFORE I GOT DIVORCED

Hindsight’s 20/20, so there’s no one better than ex-wives to tell you what to do (and not to do) if you’re going through—or just contemplating—a divorce. Here, real women share what they wish they’d known when they split from their husbands and divorce professionals weigh in on how to combat the most unexpected, yet most common, mistakes they’ve seen clients make. Rest assured, these 10 lessons can get you through the end of your marriage, both financially and emotionally.

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HOW DATING CAN CAUSE STRESS FOR YOUR CHILD

The truth about dating is that it can cause stress for your children.  You impact their level of stress by your actions.

It is my view that parents must do all things possible to mitigate the effects of the divorce on their children. One easy way to do this is to be conscious of your dating. Dating done wrong has the potential to cause stress for children for three crucial reasons, and they are important to understand.

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HEALING THE WOUNDS OF DIVORCE

If you're among the one-third of Americans who have divorced, you're likely bearing deep emotional wounds.

Even if you're escaping a terrible situation, the effects of divorce can be devastating. Is there any hope for healing?

Read on to learn tips for your recovery in this article by Brad Lewis:
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/divorce_and_infidelity/divorce_and_separation/healing_the_wounds_of_divorce.aspx

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ACCESS AND THE ADOLESCENT - ISSUES ON BOTH SIDE OF THE FENCE

Adolescence has a way of changing everything – including access. Separated parents who have long settled into an access regime now must contend with the wishes of their teenager when determining visits and even with whom they live.

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THE RISKS OF FAILING TO MAKE COURT ORDERED CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENTS

Child support payments are often one of the more contested aspects of divorce proceedings, and parents can face severe penalties for failing to make court-ordered payments as scheduled.

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HELPING KIDS COPE WITH SEPARATION AND DIVORCE

For children, divorce can be stressful, sad, and confusing. At any age, kids may feel uncertain or angry at the prospect of mom and dad splitting up. As a parent, you can make the process and its effects less painful for your children.

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EFFECTS OF DIVORCE ON CHILDREN

In the last few years, higher-quality research which has allowed the "meta-analysis" of previously published research, has shown the negative effects of divorce on children have been greatly exaggerated. In the past we read that children of divorce suffered from depression, failed in school, and got in trouble with the law.

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DIVORCE DOESN'T HARM CHILDREN - PARENTS FIGHTING HARMS CHILDREN

Regardless of whether parents stay together or split, if there is fighting going on between them, the children will suffer.

Most "pro-marriage" factions will try to tell you that divorce hurts children. Judith Wallerstein did some of the greatest misleading in her research and subsequent book entitled, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce.

Many people took her findings to heart that divorce harms children - not just in the short term but for many years to come. Without going into the obvious flaws that have already been exposed in her work, I will suffice it to say that any longitudinal study on families like this can't possibly yield accurate results because you have no way to compare these families to the alternative.

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