The moment you let go, everything seems to change. With the fear and upset gone, you see your situation very differently. You become creative and discover solutions you could never have seen before. You become naturally effective.
To let go, you need to be willing for your life to be however it is. You do this by granting permission. "I am willing to lose my job." "I give you full permission to be the way that you are." "I am willing to lose you." You don’t have to like your situation, just give it permission to be the way it is and the way it may become. Let go of your demands and expectations for how you believe life should be and make peace with the way your life is. Set yourself free inside. Then take whatever action is necessary to handle your situation.
Keep in mind that letting go is a state of mind and has nothing to do with your actions. Letting go is what removes the fear and upset so you can see what action you need to take. To make the process of letting go a little easier, there are a couple of steps you can take. The first step is trusting. Trust that no matter what happens, you will be okay. This doesn’t necessarily mean that life will turn out the way you want. Life often doesn’t. Trust is knowing that however life turns out, you will be fine. When you know that you will be fine, letting go becomes relatively easy. You can then let go, you restore your effectiveness, and life works out great. This then reinforces the trust.
When you don’t trust, letting go becomes very difficult. You fight, resist and hang on. You then make everything worse, which reinforces "don’t trust." Trust is actually a choice. Trust is something you create. It’s a declaration. "I will be okay no matter what happens. I trust, just because I say so." Trust is also telling the truth. You really will be fine no matter what happens. Life is only threatening when you resist. Look at your life. Have you ever had a situation that you didn’t survive? Of course not. You have survived everything. The times in your life that you considered tough only seemed that way because you were resisting. So stop resisting and trust. Trust that no matter what happens, you will be fine.
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